Call Mom! How to Have a Meaningful Mother’s Day Conversion
For most families across the United States, this Mother’s Day will come and go without the typical holiday trimmings – a restaurant brunch, a heartfelt hug, a relaxing day at the spa for mom. With the COVID-19 coronavirus pandemic limiting in-person contact, this Mother’s Day will instead be dominated by letters and calls. And although even the best video connection may seem like a less than ideal way to celebrate, taking time to talk with our mothers and grandmothers is now more important than ever.
As you make plans to connect with loved ones this Mother’s Day, here are some tips for having a meaningful conversation.
- Set aside a block of time. Moms spend most of their days multi-tasking so the last thing they want on their “special day” is to feel squeezed into your schedule. While it may not be the spa, you can make mothers and grandmothers feel relaxed by being relaxed and focused yourself. Block out dedicated time in your schedule today to talk with the women in your life this Sunday. The more engaged you are, the more likely your loved one will open-up and share about how they are truly doing.
- Ask the right questions. Open ended questions like, “is there anything I can do for you?” are less likely to generate a real response. Instead, try questions like, “what groceries do you need from the store?” or, “have you had any problems with new technology?” Specific questions like these will help to uncover real issues that your mom or grandmother may be facing. Equally important are questions that get to mental and physical health. Questions such as, “how are you exercising these days?” or “what is most difficult about staying at home?” can give you a better sense of how loved ones are doing when you can’t be together in-person.
- Include difficult but important topics, even if awkward. Discussing illness, safety and healthcare are tricky topics to bring up with older relatives even in the best times. With the COVID-19 coronavirus pandemic adding new risks, these topics can seem even more daunting. But taking time to ensure that your mother or grandmother is safely visiting with doctors, filling prescriptions and taking advantage of health insurance benefits can help improve their wellbeing both during COVID-19 and after. Be sure to ask if your loved one is aware of benefits like telemedicine that could be useful these days and offer to find resources if they have questions.
- Schedule your next call. For many, staying home has made the days run together and we all need something to look forward to right now. End your Mother’s Day conversation by setting the date and time for your next call, and plan to use that conversation to follow-up on any questions or concerns raised by your mother or grandmother this weekend. And don’t forget! Be sure to set a reminder on your own calendar with the details of your next call.
This Mother’s Day will be different than in years past, but social distancing doesn’t change the importance of taking time to let our mothers and grandmothers know just how grateful we are for their contributions. This year, however, as you pay tribute to all that they do, also make sure that they have the resources and support they need.